One of my survival methods in those times when I’m feeling overwhelmed by thoughts of what may lay ahead in these Lockdown Days (and those waves rise up several times a day) has been to take myself out of myself (if you get what I mean) and reach out to others to find out how they are faring.
The act of caring for others brings a surge of positive energy and helps keep the feelings of isolation at bay. One of the most important things we can do in this crisis is try and maintain a sense of community and mutual care.
Taking ourselves out of our own heads for a while and listening to someone else can help put our own problems into perspective. As challenging as our own issues may be, we need to put our heads up once in a while and check on the other people in our lives.
So, when I saw this clip from James Corden recorded at the end of the At Home version of his Late Show, his words resonated with what I have been experiencing.
“Reaching out to somebody else who you think might be struggling too is pretty much the best thing we can all do right now because we absolutely will get through this.” – James Corden 31.03.20
And then he finished with a performance of the song “You Will Be Found” by the cast of the musical Dear Evan Hansen via social distancing rules of course. (Yes, there is something of a consistency of musicals in my coping mechanisms…)
Watch it. It will lift you up. It may also make you cry but in a good way. And then go and check in with someone you know. You’ll help them and you’ll help yourself.
Stay safe.
Yes, you are very good at this, H – at reaching out and helping. Lord only knows how, as it’s in your character to withdraw into yourself: I suppose that means your efforts take more out of you than of most others. Complimenti bella ed amata.
I first became really aware of Corden in that delightful little movie with Dustin Hoffmann and Judi Dench – what is its name ? .. something about “esiotrot” .. He has a very special appeal, doesn’t he ? Dunno how he manages to be fat and lovely: I’ve tried it for years, and it ain’t never worked for me ! [grin]
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I guess just as I’m trying not to lose the physical fitness I’d built up when the marathon was postponed by continuing to train to at least some extent, I am trying not to lose the mental fitness I gained over the past 6 months and that means trying to keep reaching out.
The movie is called ‘Esio Trot’ which I must admit I’ve never seen. To me, James Corden will always be Craig in Doctor Who. 😁
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Oh, DO see it: if you don’t love it I’ll give a garden party behind the mirror bush !
You can explain away your kindness all you like, but the rationalization don’t fool me: you are a GIVING introvert.
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‘Esio Trot’ is a lovely film. Do watch it if you can. I keep checking in with my kids, but they all seem to be doing okay and none have actually thought to check in on me! Not quite sure what that says. Perhaps they just think that living where I do in the middle of nowhere I am safe 😁
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I’ll try and track it down.
Ha. Maybe. 😁 Of course mine are all at home so no checking in required. The opposite – I have to escape to the shed and tell them not to contact me. 😄
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Ah Jude, you are and always have been a woman of taste ! 🙂
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Hi M-R, glad you are still around and active, though I only see you here on Heather’s blog. Hope you are enjoying life down in Victoria 😁
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You may see me – though why you’d want to I can’t imagine – on my own: https://margaretrosestringer.com/
And that info. is your punishment for today. 😀
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Uplifting indeed and spot on advice. Reaching out is the best way to stay sane. We are all in this together. Hope you are safe and well.
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We are all well and doing all we can to stay that way. Fortunately my nerdy boys pretty much always just hang around the house when not at school or uni so this is pretty normal for them. 😄
Stay safe, Lisa.
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But what about No. 2 and his girlfriend ??
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The girlfriend is sequestered at home upstate so it’s solely virtual connections at present.
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Poor little (!) buggers ..
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Of course Esio Trot was based in the Roald Dahl book by the same name…
Big virtual hugs…..
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The official title of the movie is actually ‘Roald Dahl’s Esio Trot’. 😁
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I never knew that !
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Oh and James Corden first came to my attention in The Wrong Mans…….
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I think my first encounter was The History Boys. But he’ll always be Craig…
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That was a BBC2 series, and you SAW it ? That’s exactly the kind of TV I want Aunty to buy.
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I think it’s really important for us all to stay in touch. I decided I would have an actual phone conversation, not just messages, with at least one person every day. So far that’s working well. Best wishes to you all and keep enjoying that little shed.
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That’s great, Carol. As a shy introvert, the phone terrifies me so it’s messaging for me but I think as long as we are reaching out in whatever way we can, we’ll sustain the community together. Stay safe.
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It so important for us to stay connected in this very chaotic time we are all going through. Our family did a virtual game night tonight through the app Houseparty. So good to hang out together and try to take our minds off of the craziness that is surrounding us all.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful song. Take good care my friend💕
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That sounds great, Lynn. It has been interesting to see how people are maintaining connections in new ways. I do think (at least hope) that how we connect with each other will be forever changed after this experience.
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We are doing our best to stay in touch, and to check on folks we haven’t heard from in a while. This is a good message, Heather. Stay safe – take care.
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I knew you’d be onto it Dan. It’s strange, being naturally reticent to contact people, to find myself actually wanting to reach out to others but everything is new and different. Thanks, Dan. Stay safe. News out of US is pretty horrifying.
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New in the US is pretty horrifying, Heather, but we’re starting to see some hopeful news around our area. “The curve may be flattening” is the headline today. Still lots of people dying, but maybe few queuing up.
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Before this, I called someone once a week by phone, and it was more or less radio silence with the blogs.
I’ve been drawn back to the blogs because of the pandemic. I’ve also been talking on the phone at least once a day, sometimes, more, to follow through on a compulsion to speak to people, to hear their voice.
A friend volunteers as a exercise instructor with residents of retirement homes and long term care facilities. Her classes have been cancelled, of course, but now she’s calling her students to check in. Invariably, their response has been one of deep gratitude – texts and emails are OK, but voice-to-voice is so much better.
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That’s a good point to make, Maggie. I’ll try and get past my fear of the phone and talk to someone once in a while. Someone wrote an article recently about the impact of not being able to have physical contact with people and the impact that can have on our mental health, especially on those who live alone. It’s a challenging world.
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I like this quote and find it perfect in light of our times. I’m finding that while I cannot go out into the world as I normally would, as an introvert this is not all that distressing to me. I continue to stay connected in my own low-key blogging way, but realize for many people this isn’t an option. For once, growing up as a lonely only is a blessing. I am self-entertaining.
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I’m glad to hear you’re managing well, Ally. Isn’t it strange to find yourself in a situation where an aspect of your life that held challenges in the past is now providing a benefit? It’s a topsy turvy world at the moment.
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James Corden will forever be Jamie from Fat Friends or Timms in The History Boys for me.
I spent the first week or so of our Rahui checking up on family and friends, but hit a point last weekend when I realised no one was checking up on me. I’m not sure if my semi-withdrawal is a sulk, or just recharging. Either way, I am enjoying what solitude I can find around the Big T’s constant presence.
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I would say it’s recharging. You can’t keep giving out if there’s nothing being fed in, especially when giving out takes effort for folks like us. Look after yourself, Su.
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Thanks Heather. I intend to do only fun things for the next few days. Unless the sourdough hot cross bun recipe doesn’t work out. Failure isn’t much fun 😉
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Oh, you’ve reminded me… I should have another crack at those!
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I was going to buy some but the queue at the only grocer selling good ones was half way round the car park and I don’t like HCBs THAT much
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You have reminded me that I need to touch base with a few friends this week. 🙂
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I’m happy to have been that prompt. 😊
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The video is very uplifting Heather. It is so true that just lending a helping hand or a phone call does lift one’s own spirits. Thank you for this. Perhaps on holidays when separated from family, an extra tough day.
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Yes, an Easter without the family gathering was strange and not really like Easter at all. I’m glad this post came up for you at such a time.
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