Change. Life is all about change.
I just wish it wouldn’t change so fast.
This year has seen more than its fair share of change and transition. Looking back over the past year, I can’t help wondering how I managed to get this far with my sanity intact.
Mostly intact.
A little bit intact.
Did someone say sanity?
January
We embark on the new school year in the knowledge that this will be one of moving towards change. The Eldest Son in his final year of school, the Youngest Son finishing his time in primary school. And we move into the difficult middle year with the Middle Son. Change is all around us.
February
We send our Middle Son off on the adventure of a lifetime to spend eight weeks in Thailand with school. It is a time of challenge and change for all of us as we let go just a little bit more.
March
Twenty years after the death of his wife and daughter, having raised two young boys into fine young men on his own, my brother-in-law remarries. It is a day of great joy tinged with sadness. He moves away, begins a new career with a new family. The extended family space changes and adapts once more.
April
A dear friend dies suddenly and we are confronted with the reality of the struggle with ageing and illness. Life is changed not only for his family and friends but for the local theatre scene of which he was such a large part. (http://wp.me/p3OKST-d9)
May
Along with my three team mates, I successfully complete the Oxfam Trailwalker 100km challenge in 25 hours 35 minutes. More importantly, we raise $6,500 and change the lives of hundreds of people we will never meet. (http://wp.me/p3OKST-ft)
June
I get my first work for the year in a special school for children with severe disabilities as a relief teacher. It will be a change of career that will come to feed my soul.
July
My father dies. And life is changed forever. (http://wp.me/p3OKST-pi)
August
One of my dearest friends undergoes a heart transplant. I marvel at the miracle of science and what can be done to keep a person alive. In such a transaction, however, it is more than one life that is changed. It is a new stage of life for both the recipient of the heart and the family of the donor. Life and death. Life in death.
September
The Eldest Son turns eighteen. I change into a parent of an adult and I wonder how on earth that happened. (http://wp.me/p3OKST-we)
October
A friend issues the challenge to enter my first “fun run” (the most obvious oxymoron ever). Not inclined to do things by halves, I accept the challenge to run a half-marathon. I change into a Spreadsheet Slave as I commit (as I only I can) to the suggested training regimen. How many more months do I have to do this?? (http://wp.me/p3OKST-AZ)
November
The Eldest Son graduates from secondary school. One stage ends, another begins. What change is ahead is only a guess until results and offers come through in the new year.
The Youngest Son turns thirteen and I change into a parent of three teenage boys. I don’t know how that happened either.
December
The Youngest Son graduates from primary school and after thirteen years, we are done with the junior years forever. We await the impact of the change to secondary school for the ‘baby’ of the family, confident that he will make his own mark just as his brothers have before him.
Change. Life is all about change. And as we journey into 2015, it will continue to change and to grow.
A new adventure awaits.
A year of change, certainly. A year probably tainted most by deep sorrow. A year in which your own family brought you joy.
A year of contrast.
Whatever the coming one brings you, you’ll gain from it what you did from this one – understanding.
XO
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Thanks, M-R. There’s not much more I can say than that. Thank you for…you know…everything. xxoo
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I know. Same here.
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Very wise words, M-R!
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Wish wisdom really was within my purview, JS …
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Perhaps our truest wisdom is acknowledging we know nothing and approach life with our hearts and minds wide open 🙂
Best wishes to you for 2015 ❤
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Or in being able to draw lessons from one’s beloved animal … I LOVE that post !
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Oh, now it is my turn to be tearful. Sorrow and joy, joy and sorrow, the teeter-totter of life. What beautiful quotes you’ve chosen to go along with this post, for me especially the Anatole France. You are quite the master, if I may say so, of writing a meaningful post and you’re quite right, a new adventure awaits. Thanks for sharing yours.
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Thank you, Barbara, for being such a supportive part of it. How would one get through such things without the support of friends? 🙂
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That is the greatest surprise of my blogging life. Clearly, I had no idea what I was getting into, really, and no anticipation that I would find soulmates from all over the world. It has enormously enriched my life! Here’s to a New Year for all of us heavily weighed down on the “Joy” side of life’s scales.
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You’ve had quite a year – and I thank you for sharing it with us. Life is constantly changing and we change and adapt to the new ways and new roads that life takes us on and embrace life. I wish you well in 2015 , you and your boys, and a safe journey…
Jude xx
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Thanks, Jude. You’ve certainly journeyed afar this year – thanks for taking me along. And I wish you safe travelling wherever life’s journey takes you next year. xx
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Wow, you aren’t kidding when you say a year of change. Such monstrous ups and downs. I hope 2015 has more of the shining moments and less of the heart breaks.
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I’ll confess, the middle of the year nearly broke me (the heart transplant occurred the day after my father’s funeral) but it was the support of friends and this amazing blogging community that got me through. Thanks, Trent.
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“The important thing at any moment is to be able to give up who you are for who you could be” – Claude Dubois
Or Claude Dubious, as a sceptic said, in a Freudian slip moment.
Or: “Change is inevitable. Except from parking meters.”
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I nearly used that last one! 😀 And dubious or not, there is truth in Claude’s words. Thanks, Elly. 🙂
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What a year you have had. So much change, so much loss and you tackling challenges and through it all your amazing sense of humor. Sending hugs your way and wishes for a less changeable 2015.
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Thanks, Sue. I will be counting on you and Dave to whisk me away to exotic and adrenaline-pumping locations should the whirlwind rise up again and I need to escape. Thanks for your fun and inspiration this year. Looking forward to much more fun next year. 🙂
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You may quip about being a Master of Something Yet, but let me tell you one thing that’s for certain – you have mastered riding the waves of life. Cheers to you. All the best in 2015. And yes, you are completely sane.
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The surfboard is a bit battered and there’s a large chunk out of it where I nearly got eaten by a shark but it’s still keeping me afloat so that’s the main thing. Thanks for the fun discussions this year, Maggie. Wishing you much happy rock hunting in 2015! 🙂
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What a great post. Sadness and joy all around.
Same here. We hope for a better year and never a repeat of the last two years,… ever. No plaster big enough to cover this pain.
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Hope
Smiles from the threshold of the year to come,
Whispering ‘it will be happier’…
– Alfred Tennyson
Wishing the same for you, Gerard. xo
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There isn’t anything I could possibly say better than those who commented before me.
I didn’t catch up with you until half way through the year and I’m rocked by the magnitude of the peaks and valleys you have negotiated in the past 12 months. To call it change is a major understatement.
I wish you a new year filled with joy and laughter! ❤
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It’s weird to think you haven’t always been there. Feels like I’ve known you forever. 🙂
Thanks, Joanne and I wish the same for you. xo
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I know what you mean. It surprises me too when I think of how long – or short – I’ve known you 🙂
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A wonderful post capturing the peaks and valleys of your life this year. I’ll be glad to share the next one with you right here!
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I’ll be sticking around. Not sure I’d survive without you all. 🙂
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Isn’t this terrific ? – a wonderful post, followed by affectionate, meaningful comments from an amazing group of bloggers.
Wow ! – are we great, or what ?!
(and no, I ain’t kiddin …)
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It is wonderful. And you are all – to a one – indeed fabulous and very much the reason I have successfully made it to the end of a difficult year with a goodly supply of hope and joy. 🙂
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It seems we rather like you.
No accounting for taste …
[M-R ducks and runs]
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[H blows a raspberry at M-R’s retreating back] Takes one to know one!!
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I hope 2015 brings you nothing but happy changes…even with the teenage boys. May it be one good thing after another!
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Thanks, M-J! You have had a few changes yourself in the past year. Here’s to happily moving on! 🙂
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Working with kids with disabilities must be challenging but really rewarding. 🙂
Yes, an uppy-downy year, but you’ve made it through, and entertained along the way. I hope 2015 is kind to you and yours.
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I always come home totally exhausted – mentally, emotionally and physically – but always feeling I’ve done something good with my day. I love it. 🙂
Thanks for your wishes, Jo, and I hope the same for you and your family. See you ’round the blogosphere!
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You have certainly had a year of change and you have changed as a result. It is so hard to lose your father let alone the other changes that happened through 2014. I hope that the changes that come with 2015 are ones that you can look back on with joy, not sorrow. 🙂
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Thanks, Irene. I’m hoping for that too. 🙂
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